Dear Daisy: Ex-Wife Still in Control of Man I’m Dating

Dear Daisy,
I was dating a man for the past 6 months, he had his ex-wife as a friend on Facebook. As the relationship progressed, I told him that I felt uncomfortable with her postings and comments on his wall. I felt we needed privacy and I, respect. When he took her off his list, she went ballistic! She got his daughter involved and he put her back on without discussing it with me. His ex is married, and also dictated to him that I could not attend his daughter’s graduation despite the fact she attended with her current husband.

I have removed myself from this bizarre situation – do you feel I am overreacting?

Thanks,

Beatriz

——————

Dear Beatriz,
Absolutely not! Congratulations on getting out now, because the controlling harpee’s behavior would only have escalated. If this is how she’s treating you in the initial stages of you dating her ex, think of the bleeding ulcer that would await you if you’d gotten more involved!

This guy needs to open his eyes for the sake of his children. Any mother (or father) who uses their children to manipulate an ex, in this case, for selfish, twisted needs is deplorable, miserable and needs a therapist… STAT!

I don’t know the circumstances of their divorce, but it seems there are many unresolved issues on the ex-wife’s part. She can’t let go and gets her evil jollies by wielding control over him. But for some people it’s more important to be in control than to be h-a-p-p-y.

And much worse, since he allows it without ANY regard for your feelings, it’s obvious that his ex-wife got this guy’s balls in the divorce settlement. He’d rather please her than please himself… or you. Muy sad!

Treat yourself to a spa day and celebrate that you had the brains to dump that spineless loser! You deserve it!

Cheers! Daisy Olivera

*TO SEND A QUESTION TO “DEAR DAISY”: CLICK HERE

*Opinions expressed by Daisy Olivera are not intended as a substitute for actual legal, financial, medical or psychological help by a professional. This is solely for entertainment. Questions may be edited for length and/or grammar.